Septum piercing at age 13
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Tuesday May 20th, 2008 @ 3:31 PM
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My name is Aimee and im 13 years old. I would really like to get my septum pierced as soon as possible but everytime i try and ask mum she just says no. If i ask why not she always says because i said no. Thats the only explaination i get out if her and its frustrating because i cant talk about it. Do you have any suggestions or information so that i can convince her??! i know im young but i dont think age should be that important.
Thankyou!
Unfortunately, there may not be much, if anything, you can do to change your mom’s mind. If the only explanation she is willing to give is “because I said so”, chances are she either doesn’t have any real reason or it just “feels” wrong to here. In either case, there isn’t really a counter-argument you can offer up. If she think it’s wrong”, it will likely be like trying to argue religion or politics with her….you might have some really excellent points, but you probably aren’t going to change her mind.
Have you tried talking to her about why you want it done? Simply asking for permission isn’t the same as trying to explain to her why it’s important to you. You should consider asking her to sit down and have a discussion with you about it…ask her to at least listen to what you have to say, even if it won’t change her mind. If you can present your “side” intelligently and maturely, you might just make some headway.
Can you articulate why it’s important to you? If she asked, would you be able to tell her about the process of a typical septum piercing? Have you picked a studio where you would like to have it done? Does that studio even do septum piercings on someone your age? If so, would you be able to present her with the health and safety protocols that studio uses? Would you be able to tell her how you would care for the piercing? How do you propose to pay for the piercing?
If you don’t have well-formulated answers to any one of those questions, I think you are probably ill-prepared to have any type of serious discussion with your mom about having this piercing done.
You may think age shouldn’t be an issue (and maybe you’re right), but the reality of the matter is, age is an issue. It’s likely an issue for your mom. Depending upon where you live, it might be a legal issue. In addition, chances are good it’s going to be an issue for most (if not all) of the studios in your area…not a lot of piercers who would be able to offer you a safe, professional experience are going to be willing to do septum piercings on a 13 year old.
Best of luck.
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7 Responses to “Septum piercing at age 13”
I’d wanted my septum pierced since I was 10. I kept nagging and nagging my mum, but she wouldn’t give in. She was comfortable with lip piercings, probably because they are more “feminine” and so more socially acceptable, but she drew the line at septums. It was pointless argueing. So I was patient. After waiting 7 years, I was old enough at 17 to be pierced without parental consent and also able to pay for it myself. My mum even came with to hold my hand, because she knew by then it was something that I really wanted, not just a “phase”. I’m glad she didn’t cave in to my demands, because when you wait for something you appreciate it all the more. It seems a drag now, but in the long run the few years you have to wait before you’re independant aren’t that long compared to the rest of your life. Good luck.
hannah on May 23rd, 2008 at 6:10 pmIts unlucky your mother doesn’t listen to you.
My mother listen to why I wanted my septum pierceing and agreed she even paid and came with me.
Iam of legal age but it was important to me to have my mothers permission.
Maybe doing reseach on it and giveing your mum facts.
She might understand.
Or tell her the pro’s about that pierceing
Nikki on May 30th, 2008 at 10:19 amIts easyer to hide for school
Or other social events Than a lip or eyebrow.
am i the only person who is just glad to hear a parent say no
kids come in my shop wanting stuff like that their parents ask if they can sign for them and im like no thier to younge and the parents almost always say “thank god” wait a few years i assure you there will still be piercing needles and your nose will mostlikly still be there as well
i guess im an asshole for beliveing that if ur parents say no u should try to understand taht they are looking out for you or jsut concerned
try waiting till your of age ( i normally will do them at 16)
getting a small part tiem job after school so u can pay for it yoursefl and be like hey mom present your mother with all the facts and research dont argue adn dont act out if u cant have your way (remember she pays the bills and gives u a place to live i was put out at a very younge age for piercing and cutting my self and trying to get an apprentiship not saying i change my past but i definatly would say u are gonan like haveing a roof over your head more than that septum ring)
and dont go behing thier backs and do it that jsut ends worse
wait a few years try again and good luck
mikenite on July 20th, 2008 at 2:04 pmUpdate
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I would just like to thanks everyone who has offered there opinions, thoughts and experiences on this matter. I tried talking to my mum again in a mature way and i finally got an answer, she felt that she would be a bad parent if she let me get a septum piercing AND she also said that i can get it when im 16. I’m almost 14 and i’ve bee wanting this for about 4 years, i don’t see how another 2 years could hurt that much. Although i would love to have it done know i am going to wait and am most certainly not going behind my mums back.
Im onto a start, yay!
and mikenite if you read this, thankyou and your not an a$$hole
x
Aimee on July 23rd, 2008 at 5:16 amI too am thirteen, I really want the septum or snakebites(two lip rings on the bottom lip on both sides). My mom said yes to the snakebites if I get a’s and b’s in school. I would rather have the septum done though because it would be much easier to hide during school or at my fathers house :). but I do agree, It sucks. My mom is willing to listen to the facts and stuff about it, but she always overrides me with the cons. Just thought you should know I know how you feel. well, felt. your going to get it done someday.
Amber on February 26th, 2009 at 10:34 pmhonestly you shouldn’t get that piercing at such a young age.
Toni Surrey on March 26th, 2009 at 9:00 pmserious piercing such as those should be thought about for a few years and should be done when you are old enough to know the consequences and actually be able to care about those consequences.
i had my septum done a week before turning 17 (3 months ago).
it’s an amazing piercing, heals well, looks great, doesn’t get in the way to much, and was virtually paineless (so there’s points you can use i suppose).
but the truth is that people do judge me for it, a few things i can’t do anymore, and it’s a serious risk just to get it done.
and all of those things, at your age (or even at mine for that matter) are just not things that you should want to deal with.
i know it looks cool and getting piercings are cool right now,
but you should be seriuosly commited to a lifestlye where having piercings won’t affect you. you should also be mature enough to deal with discrimination.
and i’m sorry, but no matter how much you argue, 13 year olds aren’t mature enough for any piercing on the face besides a nose stud.
my parents let me pierce my septum at 13 and also let me get snakebites at 14
im 15 now
and honestly im getting kinda bored of my septum so im thinking of taking it out soon
the thing is if you get it later on you will appreciate it more
i got bored of it too quickly
and i kinda wish i didnt do it at 13
im keeping my snakebites fo sho cuz they are more worth it that septum piercings
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