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6 Responses to “Opposition”

1. I really agree. They are paying for you, respect them by obeying them.

   Melody on July 27th, 2008 at 11:50 pm

2. Totally agree as well. Tats and piercings are expensive! I go to university and work my butt off for the money to pay myself. The parents can’t say anything. I think you could probably take that tattoo/piercing money, shovel it into university, and when you graduate, save up for a good one without your parent’s blessing.

   Chilipop on July 28th, 2008 at 2:36 am

3. My story is the same. My parents are paying my tuition and rent while I’m in college. It sucks, but the best thing to do is absolutely to respect them and be greatful. And maybe get a hidden piercing or two…

   Kaycee on July 28th, 2008 at 6:14 am

4. Milk them for everything they’re worth, and do everything they say as long as they are paying for it. It’s far better to enjoy the fruits of their labor while you can than to eschew their help while you have this opportunity. I wish my parents had the money to send me through college; I had to work full time to pay for it, and it had nothing to do with disagreements over body modification. If your parents have the funds, do whatever they ask you to do until you graduate. As soon as you are free from the yoke of your parents’ money, do what-the-hell-ever you please. Just don’t insult those of us who wish they had the same opportunity and waste this chance you have at a paid-for education. A piercing here or there is worth waiting for if you have the offering of a college education dangling in front of you.

   Mihai on July 29th, 2008 at 5:44 am

5. If they’re supporting you financially and you are able to save money, college would be a great time to slowly set aside a “mod piggy bank” for a large ink piece, scarification, surface/anchor project and/or whatever else you have in mind. Not only will it serve as a fantastic personal reward for your academic accomplishments, you’ll find yourself taking better care of the money your parents are giving you and appreciating it more, and by waiting until after graduation before getting the work done you’re not disrespecting their wishes. A penny saved is a penny earned after all, you could easily have just blown it on beer and grass instead of taking responsibility and putting it aside. Above all you’ll have time to think about your LIFE plan in regards to body mods, and design pieces of lasting beauty/meaning you can honestly say you’ve considered in the context of your life and body as a whole.

   And if you’ve got that many piercings anyway and want something to keep you “into it”, you might be able to swap some jewelry for larger gauges with friends and start stretching.. this way you’re spending no more than $5-10 for the occasional autoclaving, and if you’re doing some kind of science you can probably work out a way to get it done for free at school. Or you can explore play piercing, I don’t know about your location but in Australia I can walk into a needle exchange and get a box of 100 needle tips of my choice for free with little to no questions asked.

   Best of luck with your studies. But I have to agree with the posters above, if you want to take your parents’ money, you should at least respect their wishes in return.

   redeye on July 30th, 2008 at 11:03 pm

6. I know this is a little late, but in my experience, if someone is trying to control you with money now, it’s not going to magically change when you’re older. They’re never going to respect your decisions if you don’t stand up for them. You don’t have to be insulting, just tell them thanks for the offer, but you’d rather show them you can do it on your own. Ten jobs is obviously a huge exaggeration, very few people actually have an option of a free ride through school, but we manage. My parents didn’t agree with my course choices in high school and offered to pay the extra fees for one, if I changed it, or none at nor extracurriculars, if I didn’t. I was scared about paying for everything, and of disappointing them so I complied. All it did was show them it wasn’t really important to me, which was, and is, untrue. I’ve started over on my own now, but I could have toughed it out and paid my own way then, and been further along now. What happens when you graduate and want to take that job out of state, but your parents tell you stay close by or no help with the move? You have to stand up for your own decisions eventually, or they will never see you as an adult. I’ve seen my grandparents tell my father when he needs to retire, or maybe they won’t pitch in next time the car breaks down. They just believe you can’t make a proper decision alone unless you show them otherwise. I told my parents I was going to be vegetarian at 16 and they told me to start buying my own groceries. I was smart on that one and did, and, after a lot of head shaking and lecturing in the beginning, my Mom’s actually going vegetarian now. When you stick with your convictions and prove they’re not immature, the cause suddenly starts to look better. You’ll work harder for you’re grades, and fell so much prouder of yourself knowing you earned your degree financially and academically. Not to mention how much your parents will respect you in the end. Ultimately you know your parents best and whether or not you feel strongly enough, but take into account how they’ll see you in the future, not just how scary it is to take that first leap on your own.

   glitter on September 14th, 2008 at 7:03 pm

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